in·ti·ma·cy nounintimacies, pluralClose familiarity or friendship; closeness - the intimacy between a husband and wifeA private cozy atmosphere - the room had a peaceful sense of intimacy about itAn intimate act, esp. sexual intercourseAn intimate remark - here she was sitting swapping intimacies with a strangerCloseness of observation or knowledge of a subject - he acquired an intimacy with Swahili literatureThanks to Google Search
The Back Story!
When I first started asking questions like "What is Intimacy?" I was trying to figure out how to get that feeling back. Most people if not all want to have some kind of intimacy with someone who they care about. It isn't abnormal to want to as they say feel close to someone and have a physical attraction to someone. I've even started looking for someone who I could possibly be intimate with. Even though I failed at my last relationship and got a divorce it isn't over for me. I'm going to keep looking for that one person who can make me happy and I can make them happy. I've seen the movie "Fireproof" [Affiliate Link] and I actually liked it. It is Christian based and thus if you don't believe in the believe then this movie isn't for you. I even got the book to go along with the movie, which is Called "The Love Dare" [Affiliate Link]! It does require you think about the other person and to be intimate with them by asking questions. I honestly think my ex-wife has tried that with me in the last few weeks she keeps asking me how I am doing and such. I usually don't respond because it is something that bothers me with her. We would always argue and get my Blood Pressure to go up. So After the break up, my Blood Pressure has dropped significantly and I am much happier. So I am not saying we will never get back together but it doesn't look good!
Can you be Inimate while using Technology?
I say it is possible, because each of us have a busy life. It isn't a substitute by all means but it can be a way to communicate and still be intimate with the person you care about and want to be open with. You should know it can be very hard to show your defenses are down when you are typing a message or texting because the other person can't really see your face or hear your voice. This is the limitations of technology, although we know have Apps like Face time, it can still be hard to have those intimate encounters. Intimacy requires no firewall per say, it is us being who we are with not acting. Even I know that we sometimes act different to show off or to look or be smarter. It is that sort of thing why we desire to be ourselves. It is far easier to not worry about being judged then to wonder how we are doing and worrying all the time.
How to use Technology to be Intimate!
I'll say this, you will have to be creative when it comes to this part of it. I will however give you a few ideas to try to help you along your way. Nothing out of the ordinary but it can be really nice to show you care!
- Texting -- keep the communications going doing the day. Show them you want to talk. It isn't always easy but it is necessary!
- Emails -- If you can write emails to your significant other this is one way to communicate with her. You could do this daily if you prefer but it must be done as if you are writing to that special someone.
- Use Social networks -- If you both have a social network that you both use then this would also be good. Just remember if you want it private don't make the mistake of making it public.
- Record Video -- You have several options but you can always use Youtube to post to just remember that those are public. It is a good way to get a little face time with your other half.
Well these were just a few ways that I could suggest to help you keep intimacy, I am sure there are quite a few ways but I want to you to be creative. Creativity helps you be more intimate with your partner and thus it is just as important how you do it then what you do.